The NEXT Day

Kelly Fellows —  February 2, 2017 — Leave a comment

The NEXT Day is a series of 1-Day training events for ALL Children’s Workers, Youth Workers and Young Adult Leaders. These 1-day events are designed to provide practical, relevant and “age-specific” training in a fun environment. All this for ONLY $25!

LOCATIONS & DATES:

Arizona
Saturday, May 06, 2017 – Chandler, AZ
The Springs Church
6135 W. Detroit St.
Chandler, AZ 85022

Hawaii
Saturday, May 13th, 2017 – Honolulu, HI
Metro Christian Church
419 Waiakamilo Rd.
Honolulu, HI 96817

Nevada
Saturday, May 20, 2017 – Las Vegas, NV
Meadows Christian Fellowship
7801 W. Alexander Road
Las Vegas, NV 89129

So. Cal
Saturday, June 3rd, 2017 – Anahiem, CA
The Cornerstone Church
4905 E. La Palma Ave
Anaheim, CA 92807

TOPICS CAN INCLUDE: (but not limited to):
– Benefits of partnering with families
– How to recruitment & training volunteers
– Effective administration tools
– Using Social Media & Marketing
– Fostering a Safe Environment
– Ministering in a sexualized society
– Relevant discipleship tools
– Sr Pastors: Reaching Millennials and Generation Z

EVENT SCHEDULE:
8:30 am – Registration opens (Coffee…yum)
9:30 am – Welcome (Together…fun)
2 Morning sessions from humorous and experienced presenters designed to inspire and encourage
12:00 pm – Lunch (Mmmm…good)
12:30 pm – #campmatters (Camp discussion)
Afternoon breakout sessions cover topics for specific age-group in 3 different rooms/space
1:00 pm – Session #1 (Special breakouts for Children, Youth, and YA Ministries)
1:45 pm – Break
2:00 pm – Session #2 (Special breakouts for Children, Youth, and YA Ministries)
2:45 pm – Session #3 (Special breakouts for Children, Youth, and YA Ministries)
3:30 pm – Close

TO REGISTER: Simply visit thenextcon.com & click on registration to reserve your spot for ONLY $25!
MORE INFORMATION: Email us at info@thenextcon.com

text-messaging-1I received this question from a concerned parent:

Q. My teenager spends a lot of time texting their friends, posting comments to Facebook, and uploading photos to Instagram. I keep hearing about kids who send inappropriate texts to one another, or post suggestive photos on Facebook. I’m so scared my kids are going to get caught up in some bad things, and I won’t even know about it, because it is easy to hide a phone or a social network application. As a Christian parent, what’s the balance of trusting my children while protecting them while they are on the Internet?

A. This question is very timely and relevant to the emerging generation. They have been labeled the Connection Generation or the Now Generation because of their accessibility to instantaneous information thru cellphones, ipods and social networks on the internet. There is an assumption that this generation owns technology. Because of that perception, there is a great sense of entitlement that young people feel toward anything technological. In addition, there is a real pressure that students experience, from friends, to have the latest gadget. This can cause parents to feel the need to provide their child with the newest “thing” in order to fit-in. Here are a few suggestions to help navigate the sea of social technology
1. Set Stages
When my daughters were infants they ate baby food that came is little jars. The food was packaged and labeled “stages.” These were for the purpose of providing babies with the appropriate food at the proper stage of development. A baby should not try to eat a steak at 4 months (I learned this the hard way). In the same way, parents should have a plan that allows the introduction of technology at the appropriate age and in stages. Prayerfully consider this for each child. Every parent knows they develop at different stages.
2. Set Standards
Don’t allow the tide of cultural pressure to sway you from what God wants to accomplish in your family. The Bible never endorses “Keeping-up-with-The Jones.” As a matter of fact it says in Romans 12:2 that we are not to be conformed to the world’s standards. In our homes, we are responsible to set the standards for what we allow to come in to our house and family.
3. Set Boundaries
Beyond what popular thought says, technology is NOT a “right,” it is a privilege. When we help our kids to view it this way, then we as parents can determine how that privilege is earned or potentially lost. As parent, you extend that privilege, which means you should have access to all the emails, texts & updates. This is YOUR right as the parent.
4. Set Guidelines
Don’t just blindly hand over the latest ipod or smart-phone to your child. Establish times and restrictions for proper use. Be clear and consistent on when and where these gadgets are appropriately used. You should be the first “Friend” your child has on Facebook. You should follow your child’s “tweets” on Twitter. Also, many smart-phones have “parental-control” features and restrictions. Do the research and use the tools already on the device. It’s easy and worth it.

As parents we have the responsibility to “train up a child in the way they should go” (Prov 22:6). Since most of this generation is “going” to the internet, then we need to be involved with their journey and not simply let them “go.” If we are not involved, we won’t like where they end up. Let’s help them successfully pilot thru the sea of social technology.

Who is Kelly?

Kelly Fellows —  April 2, 2013 — Leave a comment

RAISED UP FROM THE RUBBLECross
My mom died 1 month after my 16th birthday. Needless to say, I was devastated. My privileged life seemed to come crashing down around me suddenly like the World Trade Center on 9/11. I wandered aimlessly the year after she died. I was looking for something to take away the loneliness and pain. After that year of emptiness, I decided that life wasn’t worth living.

The day I was going to “end it all,” was in May of 1985. As I sat in my living room, I contemplated what I was going to do. Through the tears and sorrow I noticed a small paper sitting on the coffee table in the middle of the room. I picked it up and read these words:

Dear Friend:
How are you? I just had to send you this letter to tell you how much I love you and care about you. I saw you yesterday as you were walking with your friends. I waited all day, hoping that soon you would want me to walk along with you too.
As evening drew near, I painted you a sunset to close your day and whispered a cool breeze to refresh you, and I waited. You never came. Oh yes, it hurt Me, but I just kept on loving you.
As I watched you fall asleep last night, I longed to touch your brow. I spilled moonlight upon your face, trickling down your cheeks as so many tears have. Again I waited, but you did not even think of me. I wanted so much to rush down so we could talk. I have so many gifts for you.
The next day I exploded a brilliant sunrise into the glorious morning for you. But you awakened late and rushed off for the day. You didn’t even notice Me. My sky became cloudy and my tears were the rain. Oh, how I LOVE YOU!
Today you looked so sad and so alone. It makes my heart ache because I understand. My friends let Me down and hurt Me many times too. Oh, if you would only listen. I really LOVE you. I try to say it in the quiet wind as it whispers my love throughout the treetops and spills into the vivid colors of all the flowers. I shout it to you in the thunder of the great waterfalls, in mountain streams, and I compose love songs for the birds to sing for you.
I warm you with the clothing of my warm sunshine and perfume the air with nature’s sweet scent. My love for you is deeper than any ocean and greater than the biggest want or need you may have. If you’d only realize how much I really care.
We will spend eternity together in heaven. I know how hard it is on earth. I know because I was once there. I really want to help you.
My Father cares for you and wants to help you too. Fathers are just that way. So please, call on me soon. Just call Me, ask Me, talk to Me. It is your decision. I have chosen you. No matter how long it takes, I will wait forever because I LOVE YOU!
Your truest friend,
Jesus

There on the bottom of the page was a scripture reference; Psalm 139:13-16. It reads:
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”

That day, I cried out to God and gave Him my heart. Through the rubble of my emotional wreckage, rose the demonstration of God’s love – Jesus Christ.
“For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16 NLT

 “Kelly Fellows embodies everything that makes Jesus smile:  Heart after God, heart after people, and unshakeable integrity!  Seldom do you find an individual in Christian leadership circles who is more the ‘full package’ – Kelly is one of those rare individuals.”
Jeanne Mayo: Youth Communicator & Coach
President of youthleaderscoach.com

Rare Individual

 “Kelly Fellows a one of a kind leader filled with passion, wisdom and a heart for God. I believe in him and his ministry. Rarely do we find a person who combines exceptional speaking skills with even more exceptional people skills. His ministry is a very important platform for this next generation in the Church.”
Jim Burns, PhD
President, HomeWord

One of a Kind

 “I’ve known Kelly for years, watching how his passion for Christ and his heart for teens merge, allowing for exciting outreach in ways that could (and should) be duplicated by others.”
Bob Waliszewski: Director, Plugged In
Focus on the Family

Passionate

hula_lessons‘Ohana…I love this word. On a visit to the Island of Oahu, I came to understand what this word means as I interacted with the wonderful folks at New Hope Christian Fellowship. ‘Ohana is the Hawaiian term for family. It’s phrasing signifies inclusion, relationship, and commitment. The phrase was made popular in the Disney animated film, Lilo & Stich. In the movie, a small Hawaiian girl named Lilo, boldly reminds her sister, “Ohana means family and family means no one gets left behind.”

As a person committed to seeing the Next Generation embrace God’s Ways, I realize more and more the important role the family has in God’s plan. The family is the first institution/organization/system that God, Himself, created. He created it with purpose. It was at the very beginning of time here on earth that God formed man & woman and told them to be fruitful and multiply. It was through Abraham’s transient family that He began to reveal His promises for humanity. It was through Israel’s imperfect family that He began to release His plan. It was through David’s dysfunctional family that He would redeem humanity. The family is the vehicle that God has made Himself known for centuries.

Now I am not going to explore the sociological implications of the family. Nor am I going to attempt to define the family (tho the Bible does acknowledge a definition). There are many more brilliant and intelligent people who can spend their time exploring those aspects of family. Instead, I want to simply share what I feel is a revelation of God’s heart for the NextGen – ‘Ohana.

I feel the leading cause to pre-teen & teen violence, drug abuse, alcoholism, depression, suicide, sexual confusion, etc… is the on going disintegration of the family. We can trace most of these symptoms to the root problem of fractured families. It is because of this brokenness that a generation is wandering lost with no moral compass. The emerging generation feels a sense of hopelessness, not because of our depressed economy but because families have forsaken their responsibility to “pass on God’s Ways to the next generation” (Deuteronomy Ch. 6).

This is why I do what I do. This is why I have made it my life’s mission to “help this generation discover and become exactly who God has created them to be.” I believe, as my friend Gregg Johnson says, “we must reach them before we have to rescue them!” To reach the next generation we need to restore marriages and resource families with the tools they desperately need to “train up a child in the way they should go.” (Proverbs 22:6)

The church and the family must partner together to reach this emerging generation. We must both do what we are created to do. The church’s role is to equip for the work of the gospel. The family’s role is to pass on God’s Ways. Together we can reach the NextGen.